Managing anger in the New Year
By Janaki Mistry, 17 January 2017
It’s the start of the New Year and at You & Co, we know how important it is to address and understand the social issue of anger.
We all express feelings of anger quite often in our lives. For example, when your favourite football team loses a match or when you miss out on a prize for a competition at school. It’s normal for everyone to have these feelings. However, through National Anger Awareness Week in December, we’ve identified that anger-related crimes are on the rise, as some people find it difficult to control their emotions.
How to recognise when anger becomes abuse in relationships
It’s important for you to recognise if you’re in an abusive relationship fuelled by anger or if you’re a witness of an abusive relationship. Growing up you may have experienced anger from your parents or other family members and believe it’s normal behaviour. You may also have friends who appear more angry or aggressive than most people.
There are some warning signs that can tell you when anger has grown into abuse in a relationship. Remember, abuse doesn’t always have to be physical. Often anger can lead to emotional abuse, such as name calling or being threatening. If you experience this kind of behaviour from your classmates, it counts as bullying.
If you think you’re experiencing abuse in a relationship, always remember that it is never your fault and that everyone deserves a safe and healthy relationship.
How to cope with your anger after being affected by crime
It’s common for people affected by to express strong emotions - including anger - as a result of what they have experienced. However, it’s important that you can cope with the anger and overcome it in order to move forward in a positive way. The British Association of Anger Management has listed some strategies to help you cope with anger following a stressful situation, such as crime:
- Communicate your feelings. Use your support networks and open up to someone about how you are feeling and the best way to manage your anger. For example, you can speak to one of our You & Co support workers about how the anger you’re experiencing is affecting your daily life.
- Acknowledge and identify your anger. Recognise the early signs of anger and then it will make it easier to cope with once the time comes. For example, if you feel angry about your experience as a victim of crime, acknowledge it and let yourself and others in your support network know.
- Take time out. If you feel that your anger is getting out of control, take time and space away and give yourself a breather until your temper has cooled. It’s better that you manage to cope with your anger rather than letting it affect you and the others around you.
How you can help
There are lots of ways you can get involved and raise awareness of anger-related crime. If you'd like to help other children and young people who are experiencing strong feelings of anger or have been a victim of anger-related crime, get involved with You & Co’s work. You can work in your school as a peer mentor or join our National Youth Forum to share your ideas about what You & Co should do to help victims.